Everything in our own immediate day to day experiences supports the idea that we are at the center of the universe. The world is there in front of us or behind us or to the left or right of us. All our thoughts and feelings are immediate, urgent, real while other people’s thoughts, feelings, experiences have to be communicate to us somehow.
Wherever we are in the world, we mostly refer to ourselves always as “here,” and things outside of ourselves, mostly as “there.” Seeing ourselves as “here”, and all outside of us as “there” is our own built-in default orientation. As a result, we can easily find ourselves as bystanders, to our own lives and living within our power zone of being empowered to affect our own lives how we would like and how we are fully capable of.
We often think of “I” as that which goes on with us internally with our attitudes, moods, feelings, emotions, thoughts, bodily sensations, etc. We can also think of “I” through a filter of some theory, idea, memory, belief, etc. Being limited by either of those default places we associate with “I” doesn’t allow us to investigate the full potential available in being human both internally and externally. We want to be a powerful “I” that encompasses all and can grasp what we originally considered to be out of our reach. We want to expand upon the whole world in a different way. We want to get out of our “default orientation” so that we illuminate, vs. limit, what we encounter day to day.
Transforming our relationships with ourselves, our thoughts, each other, and the world requires a radical departure from our default orientation. When we’re fully engaged in something larger than ourselves, something that truly moves us and feels right no matter if it’s “here” or “there” whatever is inside of us catering to default orientation has very little relevance, other than obviously the important element of controlling us, because it is in fact our default/normalized way of being/thinking/acting. Rather than being limited by who we’ve considered ourselves to be, opportunities for being and acting powerfully and beyond ourselves show themselves rather constantly. When we recognize that we can look and act beyond our default world and the communities and people that make it up, we have the freedom to choose a richer and more expansive life. And it’s there that we’re called upon to be something bigger than ourselves.
Original and Full article can be seen at: http://landmarkinsights.com/2016/11/engaging-in-something-bigger-than-ourselves/